Psychologist to parents

 

 

Dear parents!

We suggest you conduct an experiment with your children. He will help you find out how your son or daughter was brought up. After receiving the results (perhaps disappointing), do not rush to scold the children. Draw conclusions for yourself.

Here's a question. If your son (daughter) answers "yes", you should put + in the fields, if not - . Remind the children, without insulting their dignity, that they must answer honestly.

1. If you have to be unexpectedly late at school, on a walk or suddenly leave home, do you inform your relatives about it (by note, by phone, through a friend)?

2. Are there times when your parents are busy with some kind of work (general cleaning, repairs, etc.), and you are sent outside so that you don't "spin underfoot"?

3. Put down the book for a moment and look around the apartment not with your own eyes, but with your mother's eyes. Are there things in the room that are out of place?

4. Can you immediately, without looking anywhere, name the birthdays of parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters?

5. You probably know your needs (to buy skates, a ball, jeans) well. And do you know what item mom or dad urgently needs and when they are going to buy it?

6. Does it happen that, in addition to your mother's errand, you do some other work "on your own", on your own initiative (for example, you were asked to mop the floor in the corridor, and you also cleaned all the shoes)?

7. Mom treats you to an orange, cake, candy. Do you always check if the adults got the tasty treats?

8. Parents had a free evening. They are going to visit. Do you express your reluctance to stay at home (asking them not to go, demanding to take you too, saying that you yourself are scared, or perhaps sitting with a sour and unhappy look)?

9. You have adult guests at home. Do your relatives have to remind you that you need to do some quiet thing, not to disturb adults, not to interfere in their conversation?

10. Are you shy at home, on a visit, in a museum to give your mother a coat or show other signs of attention?

 

So there were 10 questions. If the son or daughter is well-educated, the signs should be on the fields as follows: "+ – – + + + + – – – ". But the opposite picture is also possible. Then you have to think seriously.

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Family game "Do I know you?"

RULES OF THE GAME:

Both children and parents answer all the questions in writing, then compare, if the answers of parents and children match -  points are awarded.

 

So, let's check how parents know their children.

1. What will your child ask for on the day when he will not be denied anything? (You are allowed to write two things; if two answers match, the family gets 2 points, if only one - 1).

2. What will your child, having received complete freedom, occupy himself first and foremost? (It is allowed to specify two favorite things, points 1+ 1).

3. Do you know your children's friends? Name the names or surnames of the three closest to you. (If everything matches, the family gets 3 points (1 + 1 + 1)).

4. What is the most interesting subject at school for your child? (It is allowed to indicate two subjects: points 1 + 1).

 

Now let's check how children know their parents?

1. What color are your mother's eyes? Father? (Points 1 + 1).

2. What is your mother's favorite color? Father? (It is allowed to indicate two colors each; points 1 + 1 + 1 + 1).

3. Your mother's favorite flower. (1 point).

4. What song does mom like to listen to? Father? (Points 1 + 1).

5. Can you immediately, without looking anywhere, name the dates of birth of your parents? Write these dates down.

Count the points together.

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Expressions that should be avoided when communicating with your daughter (son)

 

I told you a thousand times that ...

What are you thinking about...

Is it difficult for you to remember that ...

How many times do you have to repeat ....

Don't you see that...

All people (behave in such and such a way), and you ...

You have become so (boring, rude, inattentive) ...

Well, what kind of friends do you have ...

Well, who do you look like ...

Why are you attached to me ...

You are the same as your father (your mother), too ...

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Expressions that should be used as often as possible

 

You are such a beauty to me...

With you it's so easy for me ...

I don't trust anyone as much as you...

Please advise me...

I have no one closer than you ...

I could never do as well as you...

You are my smartest...

What wonderful friends you have ...

 

Every child should receive 7-8 verbal  "patting" from their parents during the day: "You are neat to me, daughter", "You fixed the chair well, son", "We all love you"

 

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